Jan
04
2010
Im 13 Years Old And I Have A Severe Milk Allergy. My Parents R Way Too Over Protective!i Have Tried Evrything!
Posted by: Alan in Milk Allergies, tags: Allergy, Have, Milk, Over, Parents, Protectivei, Severe, Tried, Years
I carry my epipen(my medicine) every where with me! I don’t eat foods that i don’t know the ingredients. I am very very careful! But my parents still don’t let me go anywhere by myself even if im with my friends!!! I’m a teenager i should be able to do what i want if im very carefull!!! PLEEZ HELP ME FIND A WAY TO CONVINCE MY PARENTS THAT I CAN BE CAREFUL AND SAFE WITHOUT THEM ALWAYS BEING RIGHT THERE!!!
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January 4th, 2010 at 2:40 am
The only way that your parents are going to give you some space, is if you earn it. You have to earn their trust.
You need to CONSTANTLY show them that you make smart and safe choices.
Is there ever a time when you order something, or choose to eat something, and your parents have to step in, and stop you from eating it? If so, you need to learn more about your food allergies. Once you learn more, then you will be able to make smart and safe food choices.
This will not always be easy for you, but you must make the right choices 100% on your own, – NO CORRECTIONS from mom or dad!
Once you have been doing this for a few weeks, then approach them with a small outing that you’d like to go on with your friends. You need to start small, and give them time to adjust. They may say no. Keep showing them how responsible you are. Ask again in a few weeks. BUILD THEIR TRUST! Once they give you permission for a parent free outing – don’t screw it up. Make smart and safe, responsible choices!
This is not an easy road for you, and it is not an easy road for your parents, either. They want you to be able to be a normal teenage girl, but they are scared. The only way to calm their fear is by building trust.
Good Luck!!
January 4th, 2010 at 3:10 am
It will be difficult for your parents to ‘let go’ if you are suffering from such a severe allergy like this. Unfortunately, they will need to learn as they cannot follow you through life making sure that you’re okay.
Take a look at this website – http://www.anaphylaxis.org.uk/
If you’re in the UK then your parents can join for £15 a year and they send out information and hold regular youth and parent info meetings so that you can work with your parents to get some independance.
My son is 9 and suffers from a severe nut allergy. I guess I’ll feel anxious when he gets to his teens, but there comes a time when you have to trust your kids and give them the space to look after themselves.
You’ll have to sit your parents down and let them know how you feel. Tell them that you appreciate how they feel, but they need to learn to trust you at some point.
Severe allergies do cause a lot of stress for parents, but they need to find a way through the problem.
January 4th, 2010 at 8:22 am
promise them you won’t eat or drink anything at all while you’re away. ask them if they expect you to live with them all your life (to the end of their lives). I can understand their caution, but they do need to give you some credit for intelligence and some freedom to become a responsible adult. just remember, they love you so much and are scared silly they’ll lose you for no good reason.
January 4th, 2010 at 9:21 am
try sitting down with them and don’t get angry, otherwise they may just tune you out. Explain to them that they taught you to be responsible so they should trust you with your own life!
January 4th, 2010 at 2:17 pm
make a deal with them, its not fair, i’ve been through the same thing, a compramise works best
January 4th, 2010 at 9:13 pm
call them or something.
like, whenever you’re about to eat tell them what you’re having and that you will take yo meds.
those are some strict parents.
haha, or attach a webcam to your head.
idk, but the best thing is to call them and let them know what you’re eating and stuff.
that’s the best i can help you with.